When I judge something as beautiful, does it automatically ensure that something is ugly ?
Birth - Death
Joy - Sorrow
Wellness - Disease
All of it is suffering, flip sides of the same coin that our Ego spins over and over again in our minds.
Yesterday I met with the Abbess of Enpuku-ji , Zengetsu Myokyo. A small Rinzai Zen Center here in downtown Montreal. I have to say that I liked it and her openness and ease of communicating made it feel very comfortable. Along with some basic instruction on sitting Zazen and background info on the Rinzai tradition and her being here, I was able to ask her a question that often percolates in my mind.
Suffering, and the causes, or more specifically the challenges that I have had to face in my life and the life of my children.
''Do children pick their parents ?'' I asked and is there anywhere in Buddhist texts that reference something along those lines. Not coming from a desire to logically place all this in a neat, tidy order but more from the perspective is it just fluke ? or like she replied to me as she felt her teacher would reply ''Probably because you can handle it''
Which is something that my wife and I have often thought about but was interesting to hear it from someone else's perspective.
At any rate even though the neighborhood was lively to put it mildly. The atmosphere inside the Zendo was calming and natural.
Well, my oldest started High School this week. Has to wear a uniform , commute by train and well manage all on her own. Where has the time gone. Hard to believe I used to hold her in the crook of my arm.
Had a bit of a rocky start to the week, attitudes , tempers all flared up to critical points but things are on the mend.
My a-ha moment was in listening to a podcast from Ven.Eshu Martin (link here : http://livingzen.libsyn.com/ about relationships.
Sometimes things are so obvious we can't seem to see the forest for the trees.
Anyway , at least I saw the forest and the trees today.