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Sunday, January 30, 2011

Incendies-Movie Review

Well seeing as it is nominated for Best Foreign language film for an Oscar , we decided to check out this movie,also the screenplay and direction is from a Montrealer named Denis Villeneuve.(Gotta support the home grown talent!)
Wow, a day later after seeing the film and it's imagery is still fresh in my mind. He masterfully created a cinematic experience of storytelling that even if you don't speak French,the story moves and flows bringing you along for the ride , and what a ride it is.
He weaves this tale laden with suffering and love at the same time with such balance and artfulness I highly recommend that you check it out. The movie does have sub-titles and for some I know the idea of reading a movie is a put-off, but it is well worth it. I would be curious to hear from anyone who has seen it already or checks it out , let me know what you think

Monday, January 24, 2011

Home for the day,feeling older

Cold weather takes it's toll, -38 Celsius this morning, diesel school buses having mechanical issues turn the day upside down and Veronica and I are home for the day.
Whilst Veronica is happy about spending the day with Daddy I have to say that I am lucky that my bosses are somewhat understanding about the scenario. The alternative would be to take her to work with me and again she would love it, but it might not be the best idea.

Pedagogical days, spring break , and somewhat impromptu snow(everything is frozen solid) days make for needing a flexible schedule.

As for feeling older, I am starting to notice that I need to take better physical care of my body. Strength training, flexibility (maybe some yoga). Pulled a pectoral muscle transferring my daughter on Saturday reminds me that as the heavy lifter of the family I can't keep just powering through moves like I used to. Hard to break old habits I guess. I pride myself of the fact that I have never dropped one yet...but as Veronica gets older I need to lift smarter and train and prepare my body for heavier and heavier transfers.

Better than one hundred years lived lazily and lacking in effort,
Is one day lived with vigor and exertion.
Dhammapda (112)

Sunday, January 23, 2011

Future Worries

Well, I would have to say that it doesn't happen often, but every now and again I wake up in the middle of the night worried about the future of my youngest daughter. Her syndrome has left her unable to communicate her needs and epilepsy that is somewhat under control but still present and hindering progress. Although she completely understands and is starting to show some improvements in her motor skills, she will undoubtedly need assistance for all of her life.
Hence the renovation we just went through, to enable my wife and I to take care of her more easily as she gets older.
What wakes me up however is what happens when my wife and I are gone, who is to be her advocate ? Who will be in her corner fighting the system to ensure that she is getting the best care, treatment and compassion that she deserves.  I imagine it's not so different for when people start worrying about their parents, but I get stuck on the fact that she is 9, and I am in my forties, mathematically speaking it's coming, like an accident in slow motion that can't be avoided.
It's not so much a fear ,really just worry. It can't be helped I think but does keep me awake from time to time.

Saturday, January 22, 2011

Reno done, moving on

Well, renovation is done, some fine tuning left to do but overall things are pretty much completed. The contractor has some corrective work to touch up but we're good. It was quite the start to the new year.

Today we have hit the deep freeze with the lows getting to -19 plus wind chill to around -28, and Tuesday the actual low is supposed to hit -28 plus the wind chill. Still not as cold as Duluth MN but kinda close.

Routines are getting back to normal and I want to stir things up. I recently found out about a family membership plan at the YMCA that really is quite affordable and the whole family can benefit. Even my youngest as the have a pool and swimming is one of the things she really enjoys. This will entail shaking up the end of school , dinner time and veg out on the couch schedule but I really think it is worth it. Plus the YMCA has classes in Tai Chi, Tai Chi sword(didn't know that existed), Aikido, Karate, Kung Fu, along with Yoga and Pilates.
Overall something for everyone. I have to say though that I seem to be the only one that's likes change and embraces it. Perhaps it's my left-handedness, not really sure. At any rate something I want to achieve so that as a family we are more active and healthy. 

Sunday, January 9, 2011

Demolition -Renovation

Been out of circulation for a little bit. Just after the holidays we embarked on a major renovation of our home to accommodate my younger daughter's wheelchair. In Canada there are some subsidies to be had for this kind of work but there are waiting lists and after six years, it was finally our turn.
We had to stay in a hotel for portion of the work as we had no access to running water as our bathroom was demolished down to the studs to make room for a ''roll-in'' shower , enlarged door frames , enlarged doors inside and out. Wheel chair accessibility in a thirty plus year old home has it challenges let me tell you.
At any rate we are now back home, albeit still in a construction zone.
The instigator of all this madness ...(she's well worth it!)
Another week to go if all goes well.