It can only be what it is...

Thursday, May 26, 2011

A quote from Pema Chödrön that I really like

“When you open yourself to the continually changing, impermanent, dying nature of your own being and of reality, you increase your capacity to love and care about other people and your capacity to not be afraid. You’re able to keep your eyes open, your heart open, and your mind open. And you notice when you get caught up in prejudice, bias, and aggression. You develop an enthusiasm for no longer watering those negative seeds, from now until the day you die. And you begin to think of your life as offering endless opportunities to start doing things differently.” — Pema Chödrön

Sunday, May 22, 2011

How deep are the weeds ?

After years of neglect my front and back lawns have taken quite the beating. Not that I didn't want to maintain them, it's just with my daughter's health in the beginning, mowing the lawn was the extent of care that I put towards my grass.
Fast forward and weeds have taken hold.
Today I went outside with my trusty yard implement to remove the culprits from my lawn and was struck by the extent that the weeds roots had taken hold.
The roots were deep to say the least, and I thought , that makes sense, my own mental weeds are just as deep and just as difficult to remove.
Neglect and mowing down emotions , feelings, are just as similar as leaving my lawn to fend for itself.

I realized that I am thankful for my weeds, gives me something to work on both outside and internally. My internal weeds are what  have shaped me into what I am today, for good or for worse. They are there, roots and all. One by one , the deep rooted ones that have a choke hold are slowly becoming untangled and let loose. The fluff floating away in the wind.
Whose to say that weeds are ugly and non-desirable anyway ?
If I didn't have weeds in my lawn, I'd have no front lawn !

Cadbury "Monks" Directed by Erik Van Wyk

I am curious to know how people perceive this ad ? is it funny, or bad taste ? Let me know...

Saturday, May 7, 2011

Being Gentle with oneself

It struck me the other day as I was trying to get my teenage daughter to give up being so hard on herself, (she is a rather obstinate perfectionist) that I probably have not been the best example of this.
My daughter has fears of not being perfect to the point that she will abstain from trying if she thinks her results might be less than 100% perfect. I don't have that issue.
My motto has always been try and learn, give it your best , but try and see what happens.
I recently have started yoga , and let's be honest, even after years of Karate I am less than stellar, but I enthusiastically look forward to every class and see my progress in micro steps.
My stumbling block is trying to protect the ones closest to me from disappointment . There is absolutely nothing that I can do to prevent others from disappointment and logically, I know that.
Still I end up full of anxiety when I perceive that someone close is feeling anguish or anxiety.
Perhaps in being gentle with myself, this will entail being gentle with others and be contagious in a good way.
This is what's rumbling around this morning.

Sunday, May 1, 2011


Recently I have come to understand or realize that I sometimes make things too complicated. Probably in a lot of areas.
I over think things,
This bleeds over to when I try to meditate as well. I worry about proper form, am I breathing properly, is my breath deep enough, were the last couple of ones to shallow....or was I more distracted today then yesterday etc.
I was listening to a podcast from S.N. Goenka and I had a Ah-Ha ! moment.
What I took away from it was the KISS method, ( Keep it simple stupid ). Not being in full lotus isn't going to make or break my meditation, or commiserating about the deepness or shallowness of my breath or the myriad other irritants that pop up in daily life.

If you are irritated by every rub, how will you be polished -Rumi Sage

Mind Training in 8 verses